Approach to Therapy:

The goal is to teach you the skills to manage the conflict or difficulties in your relationship so that when new disagreements come up, you will be able to handle them on your own.   While I am going to share my beliefs about therapy and tell you the theories that I practice, what is really important is that you come out of therapy being able to handle the things that brought you to therapy in the first place.  I want to be a resource for you, a way to learn how to manage things within your relationship.

My personal belief is that the mind and body are connected.  What does that mean?  It means that there is a connection between what is going on in your mind and symptoms in your physical body.  I will focus on sorting through what the brain is telling you and how you are physically reacting to that message.  We will come up with coping skills, focus on incorporating self-care, and even incorporate breathing techniques, meditation, and other activities that you deem calming.  It isn’t until we get through the things that get us worked up that we can deal with processing through the issue.

I use a variety of theories such as Narrative, REBT, Solution-focused, Gottman Method, Acceptance and Commitment, CBT, and Attachment Theories.  I believe that every individual/couple/situation is different and that there isn’t one theory that will work for all. It’s important to meet each individual where they are and at a place where they feel comfortable to open up and are ready to approach the problem.

I also see therapy as something that the individual/couple needs to be willing to put in the work.  Part of the agreement is that the individual/couple will be open and honest in communication and be willing to work towards the goals that they have come up with in conjunction with the therapist.  I may ask that you do a bit of work on your own in between sessions, this work will be discussed and it is a choice because I want you to be comfortable taking steps forward when you are ready.

I want you to know that the hardest step to take is the first one and that by making an appointment and coming in, you have already done the hardest part in showing and sharing your vulnerabilities. I look forward to working with you on your journey of self-discovery and helping you find ways to work through your difficulties at your pace, on your terms.

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